Unhappiness

Unhappiness is a cry for help; approach is necessary as soon as possible. I have previously written an article on Happiness sometime ago. This time I am writing about unhappiness.

Unhappiness is a cry for help; approach is necessary as soon as possible. I have previously written an article on Happiness sometime ago. This time I am writing about unhappiness.

Most of us know what would make us happy – being healthy and living in plenty, with little or no inconvenience in life. That seems like a dream to some.

Benjamin Franklin once said “God helps those who help themselves.” People should identify and create the changes they want to bring into their lives. Know where you want to be and what you want to do and pursue that. It all starts in the mind. We’re as big as our minds.

Unhappiness is the inability to be happy. However, God has promised to look after us. So, what is making us unhappy?

As a child, a lot of things caused me unhappiness – hunger, waking up early to go to school, a fear of mathematics, our class teacher with his canes and whips, bullies. As we grow up, we have other reasons. We know that life is not a bed of roses, and as we grow we move into different stages of life with their different challenges. Life is a forest full of all sorts of things. It’s survival of the fittest.

Challenges make us what we are, and give us wisdom. Thank God that we have people who have directed us, like parents, teachers and guardians. They can help us create a dream life of our own.

Some people seem to be perpetually unhappy. Have we thought about what is making us unhappy? There may be negative feelings such as nobody loves us or cares for us. Negative feelings can be a cause of unhappiness. When you have negative feelings, write them down on a piece of paper. Then hold the paper above a lighted match or candle outside at a safe place. As you watch the flame consume the paper, say to yourself, “Goodbye negative feelings”. Then go to your front door, throw it wide open and say, “Hello positive feelings. Come on in.”

Remember God is right beside you. God is the friend of the friendless. Read Psalms 31,35, 37, 42 and 121 for comfort. Get your Bible where you have dropped it, dust it and always have it by your side. Discuss your unhappiness with our vicar or another person of God. Unhappiness is a heavy situation. Christ is waiting to get you out of this condition into being a happy person.

An unforgiving spirit is another cause of unhappiness. People harbour grudges from years ago. Try to make up with anyone you think has wronged you or anyone who feels that you have wronged them. Spring clean your mind, brush away the cobwebs of guilt, scrub out the stains of anxiety and hoover up the dust of depression. Remember to offer help to each other.

Our consolation is to realise that Jesus is with us. We are not on our own. Jesus shares our sorrow and suffering.

Live each day to its fullest, as if it were the only day we had.

God bless you all.

Gladys Ikeme

(Child of God)